Too Modest, Girlfriend7:30 AM
Are you too modest, sister? Do you wear swimsuits to the knees, culottes in place of pants and long denim skirts? We have heard, certainly, the argument of Christians being too much like the world, being too immodest, being too worldly. Now, apparently, we are too modest.
The argument goes like this:
"You can also draw attention to yourself by dressing in such a way that you become a hindrance to the Gospel. Jesus was a relevant guy, as best we can understand, regarding how he dressed. He wasn’t ostentatious, showy, or oddly conservative in his dress. When someone spent time with the Savior they said, 'No one ever spoke like this man.' Not, 'No one ever dressed like this man.'" 
I disagree. Here's why.
You can also draw attention to yourself by dressing in such a way that you become a hindrance to the Gospel.
You can also draw attention to yourself by not smoking, not drinking, not dancing provocatively, not reading Twilight, not dressing like a harlot. It all depends on the group you're with. We are peculiar. We are different. It should be a severe discouragement to hear a non-Christian breathlessly say, "Wow! You Christians are just like me!"
Unless, of course, a Mormon says it. And that's a whole different story.
Now those who say that statement do have a point. Difference for difference sake is unbiblical. I won't go to hell for wearing a garment my non-Christian friend does too. I don't think we ought to dress like pioneer women in order to be counter-cultural. I think this issue is primarily one of the heart. Modesty is a biblical virtue. But it is also a personal conviction too, I think. If you feel uncomfortable wearing pants, go ahead and pull on that skirt. If t-shirts cause you to stumble, by all means don't wear them. If you think calico dresses fits your style of modesty, that is between you and the Lord. The lady who has a conviction in dress that may be "odd" to the world and the less convicted Christian populace has the Christian liberty to act on that conviction.
Don't laugh, enlightened Christian. You exercise the same right.
I wear skirts all the time - except for sports, specially biking. People have said in my presence, "We shouldn't wear skirts only because we don't want to look legalistic." I wanted to come up with a nice, intelligent sort of reply, but I could only think, So what? I don't wear skirts because the Bible "says so." I wear them because I feel feminine, womanly and modest in them. I will stand out. I will look different. But my heart is in the right place - striving after God's standard of how His daughter should dress.
Jesus was a relevant guy, as best we can understand, regarding how he dressed. He wasn’t ostentatious, showy, or oddly conservative in his dress.
The question of dress always brings up the topic of culture. In Jesus' day, He did fit in with no issues because the dress back then was conservative. Were he to stand before the Roman assembly, He would not be so relevant. To the soliders who gambled for His tunic, there was a difference in dress, since they wanted it so badly. Relevance is relative, you know.
The question is, "What standard am I going to dress by?" The harlot's? The average Joe's? The Amish? Or God's Word?
In this day and age, the fashions of today are immodest, at best. Do I approach the line in order to "fit in"? To put it another way, "Do I shape the culture or does the culture shape me?" The fashion of today is based on certain presuppositions: namely, flippant sensuality, immaturity, materialism, and, strangely enough, following the culture. Thus the bikinis, the Sesame Street t-shirts, the ugly glam jewelry - "More is better!" - and all the fashion lines modeled after country singers.
A Christian girl ought not to feel pressured to emulate the world's standards. She will, in different ways, end up looking different no matter how one cuts it. I don't mind being stylish as long as I can do so modestly - that's icing on the cake, if one even considers it a virtue. Fashionable, no - for one of my principles in dress is not looking like a slave to the culture. Good style is always classy and timeless; fashion is tacky and short-lived.
My primary interest is not fitting in and looking good. I don't serve the people. I serve Christ, Who calls me to a different standard for a different world.
These are two different things: a girl who sincerely believes she is doing right in dressing "oddly conservative" and a girl who does it under gunpoint or because she's grown up with it. The former is perfectly content in her "over-modesty" and is just where God wants her to be. The second can either be legalistic or is a candidate to the possibility of different convictions of dress. But for heaven's sake, start with, "The Bible didn't come with dress patterns" instead of "Jesus was a relvant guy."
Therein lies the point. You can be "too modest" and "oddly conservative" if you insist on everyone using the same pattern to cut their clothes, if you think it is hellish to wear anything from Wal-Mart, if you're legalistic and conservative just for conservativeness's sake. You are not "too modest" if you truly feel you honor God with your clothes, be they odd or conservative or in any way different than what Somebody says.
Truly, a woman dressed in long sleeves, long skirts and a high collar - if she dedicates it to the Lord - cannot be hindering the Gospel as much as some sort of liberated, all-or-nothing, no standards woman...whether she dedicates it to the Lord or not.
That from a girl who does not dress oddly conservative. At least, I think I don't.